A couple of friends and I were out at a bar the other night when this guy, who we'll call Billy, started to chat us up. Billy was a loud kind of bloke who was making a scene to make a scene and to be honest, was probably just enjoying his night. We began to talk to him at which point he refused to tell us his name because we hadn't "earned it" and lied about his friend's names and where he was from.
So here's the dilemma.
Was he an ass hole? Or was he just being "fresh?"
A lot of girls will go out to bars and coincidentally be hit on by guys similar to Billy and there exists a certain dilemma with this situation, because you can't quite tell if he's putting on a show or if he actually acts like this on a normal basis. It becomes imperative for girls who head out to clubs and bars to create a certain barrier or skepticism towards men like these for two very important reasons... 1. If this is his normal persona, then if you date this guy, you wont be able to ever get him to tone down this exuberant and obnoxious personality. 2. If this is just a show, then who's to say that he doesn't have lots of different personas that will eventually come out. Some of which you might find gut-wrenchingly horrible.
So what do you do when you meet these kind of guys/girls at a bar?
You have a few options.
If you're looking to date them... RUN!
If you're looking for a hook-up.... RUN! Because if they are this show-tastic, then they're only thinking about themselves or the perceptions of themselves and will therefore only be looking for self-gratification and not thinking about your needs.
If you're looking to be amused for the better part of the evening and give as good as he's/she's dishing out... then Stay. Because at the end of the night you will have had a great time laughing at their antics. This is actually what I usually do. I'm not looking for the next love of my life in a bar. I'm looking for a good time full of laughter and fun, and trust me, when a guy grabs your leg up to kiss it just to show how sensitive and tender he can be... You'll laugh your head off as he makes a dramatic show in front of the entire bar. Never fear though, because if he's that crazy, he'll probably make you slap him later in the night as a bet. At which point you can slap him for all he's worth to get out the pent up frustration of your week.
So to be perfectly honest, I don't know how to tell a "fresh" guy from an asshole, but I do know how you determine whether or not you hang around with them for the better part of the evening.